I am thinking of renaming this blog “The Adventures of Dating in your mid-30s” (okay… late 30s, but who’s counting?). I thought that if a guy asks you out on several dates, that you could assume that they were actually available. I’ll know better next time!
For the last few weeks I’ve been going out with this guy. We’ve been having a good time and getting along just great. I noticed after some time that he didn’t seem available on the weekends. This wasn’t easy to figure out because I have been on the road and not around much on the weekends either. But this last weekend when I asked him out, he said he was going out for a bike ride and couldn’t see me. My response, “You are going for a bike ride ALL weekend?”
I started to put together that there was something a little strange about that, and perhaps there was more to the story than I knew. So, I asked him if he had a girlfriend. Even with a direct question, I couldn’t get a direct answer, but when you put two + two together, you come to the same conclusion.
Dating these days is harder than it used to be. Now we have the phone (which no one actually uses), emails (3 different accounts at the very least), Facebook (when he didn’t accept my friend request that should have clued me in), and texting (which is totally confusing and impersonal). With all these options, it is amazing that anyone even gets to the point of actually going out on a date.
So, now I know. Before going out with someone I first need to ask if they are married or in a committed relationship. Whew, glad to get that lesson outta the way relatively unscathed. Anything else I need to know?
Comments (2)
Hi there.. great suggestion to ask somebody if they are dating someone else or are in a relationship but don't expect to get a truthful answer. Guys lie all the time because if they told the truth they know that you would not go out with them. They're just hoping to score something on the side and hope to carry on the charade as long as they can get away ith it. My advice these days, Do a background check on anybody you date.
Posted by Linda | November 6, 2009 6:53 PM
Posted on November 6, 2009 18:53
I see you posted this over a year ago. Hope your dating life has improved as I'm sure there are good guys out there somewhere.. Aren't there??
Asking doesn't matter. I'm sure there are men who don't lie, but I haven't found one. Could be that they like to play the game or I'm thinking they're that insecure. I like men.. Hell I love men, but I'm not interested in all the games.
Getting involved is risky business but it's truly the only way to get to know someone. Getting to know a guy and then using your intuition to guide you is what I think works best. Common sense helps, too.
Posted by Snow | April 22, 2010 5:16 AM
Posted on April 22, 2010 05:16